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A flogging scene doesnt have to be heavy or
risky in order to be erotic, and most such scenes involve no legal,
health or safety problems. This note concentrates on best practice
and what can go wrong. This is not intended to scare anyone away
from an activity that can provide a great deal of mutual pleasure
and satisfaction. Whether you pick up a whip intending to titillate
your partner with a few light strokes or are hoping to push his
limits and give him a scene of a lifetime, sensible precautions
will help you avoid illegal acts, injury and unintentional pain.
Easy sanitary procedures can virtually eliminate the chances of
transmitting infectious diseases via flogging equipment.
The recommendations given here are deliberately quite conservative.
You may witness someone break the rules without problems,
or have done so yourself. Theres also a slight chance that
you could get hurt, or hurt someone else, even if you follow every
rule. Safety is never absolute. We are dealing in probabilities
here. The rules, which are based on the experience
of many people over many years, as well as on current medical
knowledge, are intended to minimise risk for most people in most
scenes most of the time.
Flogging terminology is often imprecise. As used in these notes,
flogging means hitting with a whip, cat, or any other implement
having one or more flexible lashes. Whip is occasionally used
loosely as a generic term for all flogging implements but usually
refers only to implements with a single lash. Cat refers to multi
lashed implements whose tails are braided and flogger to multi
lashed implements whose tails are flat and unbraided. As far as
safety is concerned, belts and straps are very much like floggers
just dont hit with the buckle. Hitting with a paddle,
cane, truncheon or other relatively inflexible implement is different
from flogging and raises issues not covered by this note, though
what is said here about safe areas to hit and about bruises is
also applicable.
Playing safe
A stationary target is easier to hit accurately than a moving
one, so it is usually preferable for the bottom to be restrained
during a flogging. While many of us have an image of flogging
that involves the bottom tied standing up, it is easier for most
bottoms to sustain a long scene if their weight is supported in
some way. A St. Andrews cross or A-frame tilted off the
vertical can be very comfortable, as can being restrained horizontally
on a bed or table. Kneeling with the chest and head supported
on a bed, bench, chair, etc. is also a safe and comfortable position,
particularly for ass floggings. Any setup for flogging should
include sufficient lighting so the top can see where hes
hitting and the precise effect of his blows. If the light distracts
the bottom, use a blindfold or hood, but never risk doing a flogging
in inadequate light. Before the scene, it is important to agree
a stop word or signal which the bottom can use to stop the scene
completely and immediately. Also, most experienced whipmasters
put a kidney belt (a weight lifters belt) on the bottom
before any heavy flogging of the ass and back. Even an expert
can miss a shot, and knowing that this most vulnerable area of
the bottoms back side is protected will allow both top and
bottom to relax and enjoy the scene more. If the upper back is
going to be a major target, a heavy collar, the wider the better,
is advisable as well, and a heavyweight hood can protect both
the neck and the head. Some bottoms may be less nervous about
a flogging or whipping if you leave them at least partially clothed.
Clothing can absorb some of the force of the blows and most of
the sting (and the cutting potential) of thin whips, as well as
protecting against stray blows to areas that should not be hit.
Depending upon individual preference, anything from T-shirt
and briefs to denims to full leather may be worn. A leather waistcoat
can make it a lot easier for an inexperienced bottom to take a
back flogging. Leather chaps can be a good protection for vulnerable
parts of the legs as well as framing the ass and making it a better
target. Leather jeans can make even a heavy ass whipping tolerable
for a novice. Its a trade off, however, as there are real
disadvantages to flogging a clothed bottom. For one thing the
top has to swing harder to give enough force to his heaviest blows
(some may enjoy being able to work up a sweat with
less fear of damaging their partners). Also, without being able
to see the effect of your blows reddening of the skin,
visible cuts, bruises it can be harder to pace the scene.
And, rough fabric and hard leather can wear away the ends of a
fine flogging implement!
How to hit
The cardinal rule is learn to hit where you aim. Most of the
accidental injuries in flogging occur because the top did not
have enough control to hit the part of the body he was aiming
at and hit some off limits area instead or in addition
(as when a whip wraps around the torso). Good flogging technique
requires extensive practice on an inanimate object, such as a
pillow, teddy bear, hanging towel or piece of carpet, or upholstered
chair: anything that can absorb the blows without damage yet also
show where they landed. And, youll need to practise with
each flogging implement you want to use. The many kinds all handle
differently; no one can achieve acceptable accuracy with unfamiliar
equipment. Although anyone can miss a stroke occasionally, until
you can hit a precise target area with virtually every swing,
you have no business using a whip on a person.
As a corollary, hit with just the tip of the lash or tails,
not the full length. (The exception is when you use a short cat
or flogger and are skilled enough to make the whole length of
the tails land where you want them to something virtually
impossible to do when the tails are longer than, say, 2 feet.)
For one thing, the end of a whip, cat, or flogger is easier to
control than its body, and for another, if you try to land its
body in a certain place on your bottom, the tip is almost certain
to wrap around and hit him somewhere else out of sight. And because
the tip travels faster than the body, when it wraps it will hit
much harder than the blow from the body of the whip on the side
of his body that you can see. The result will usually be much
more pain than you intended, often in a part of his body that
you shouldnt be hitting at all (such as the side of the
rib cage), and you could damage a vital organ in the process.
To avoid the spine when youre flogging the back, just land
the tip of your implement on one side of his back or the other
dont try to lay it across the whole width. Dont worry
if you trail the whip across his spine as you draw it back, as
long as the primary blows avoid it. Causing cuts, scrapes, and
bleeding is illegal, and can usually be avoided, or at least minimised,
by limiting the force of your blows, particularly with whips that
can cut or scrape the skin easily, and by not hitting an already
bruised or lacerated area again. (Some tops immediately bandage/put
a plaster on every cut they notice, both to protect it and to
help them remember not to hit the same spot again.) In general,
you are most likely to break the skin if you hit hard again and
again in the same places, least likely if you distribute lighter
blows over a wider area. But a lighter, well distributed flogging
that lasts a long time can have a cumulative effect in terms of
pain and stimulation very similar to that of a heavier, more concentrated
flogging.
Where to hit
Hit only well padded areas of the body. The more muscle and
fat covering bones, ligaments, nerves, major blood vessels, and
organs, the better. People differ, obviously, in how well padded
they are, and the only universally safe target areas are the buttocks
and the thighs (especially on the rear below the buttocks). Within
any particular bottoms limits, these are the areas where
you can strike hardest and longest.
The upper back is a safe target area for moderate flogging on
most men. You can go heavier on someone with a very muscular back
or someone whos toughened his back through previous floggings
over the course of years. The application of witch hazel over
a period of time will toughen the back. Avoid flogging someones
back if hes skinny and the bones are very prominent, or
at least go very lightly. The upper chest (the pectoral region),
like the upper back, is an area where some enjoy being flogged
while others cannot tolerate it at all. Go very lightly until
youve gauged his tolerance, and never flog this area as
heavily as the buttocks or thighs. The soles of the feet, the
calves, and the cock and balls can usually take a light flogging
without damage, though individual tolerance varies. Remember that
the feet are full of bones and nerves, the calves carry major
nerve channels and blood vessels, and the genitals contain many
delicate structures. The abdomen (including the chest below the
nipples) should almost always be avoided, the exception being
when the bottom is a bodybuilder who has exceptionally strong
musculature in that area.
Certain areas should be avoided absolutely, including the face,
the neck, the joints, the hands, the lower back (just above the
buttocks), the sides of the torso (armpits to waist), and most
of the legs and feet (excepting only the calves and soles as noted
above). When flogging the back, the spine should never be a target
and should be avoided as much as possible. Incorrect flogging
technique, or simply a missed shot, can result in damage to parts
of the body that should not be involved at all, such as the eyes
and the rest of the face, the nerves and blood vessels in the
joints (especially the elbows and the knees), the spine, and internal
organs (especially the kidneys). Damage in these areas can be
so serious, even life threatening, that you should not think in
terms of minimising it. Rather, make every effort to avoid it
altogether.
During a scene
Always pay attention to what youre doing and the effects
of your blows. Check for cuts and developing bruises, and avoid
striking those areas again. Even if you think youre not
wrapping, check the bottoms other side from time to time
to be sure. The bottom, too, should remain aware of where hes
being hit and how hard not just the overall effect
so he can let the top know if hes missing targets or exceeding
limits. Of course, neither partner can keep a clear head if hes
under the influence of drugs or alcohol. If you make a mistake
and hit harder than you intended, acknowledge the slip for what
it was and re-establish rapport with your bottom by touching or
talking to him. An error need not blow the whole scene
no worthwhile bottom will panic because youre not
perfect, but he may need reassurance that you know what youre
doing and are in control. If a bottom feels a top is incompetent
or is exceeding his limits and wont stop, he could easily
panic or be terrorised. Such emotional wounds may make it difficult
for the bottom to enjoy subsequent S/M action, and they can even
generate psychic stress that impairs other areas of his life.
If he wants to quit the scene and the top doesnt, its
the tops responsibility to persuade not bully
him into continuing. Anything else is brutality, not consensual
S/M. If you feel sure that he can take more, see if hell
let you continue with a different type of flogging implement,
a different target area, or a slower pace and lighter blows. Such
measures can help him recover from a premature overload
and get into the scene again. You can build to a new peak later,
or simply continue until you can end the scene at your initiative.
Bottoms can push or exceed a tops limits too, both need
to know when to say enough.
Dangers
Although an erotic flogging is rarely bloody, (and thus clearly
illegal), many kinds of flogging implements can open the surface
of the skin, either by cutting or scraping previously undamaged
skin or by causing the weakened skin over a bruise to break. Thin
whips such as bullwhips, tightly braided cats, and thin tailed
quirts are most likely to cut, nylon tipped whips and rubber floggers
to scrape (abrade), and heavy, wide tailed rubber or leather floggers
and cats to bruise, but similar effects can also be caused by
other implements.
The chief danger from breaking the skin is infection. For the
bottom, the most serious risk is becoming infected with a disease
through blood or colourless lymph body fluid, which can carry
HIV and other viruses, left on the flogging implement from a previous
scene, if it was inadequately cleaned or not cleaned at all. Less
serious, is that the open wound is vulnerable to airborne bacteria
as well as contaminants spread by the tops hands or his
own, causing the wound to fail to heal or heal properly. Infectious
agents in the bottoms system might be transferred from an
open wound to the flogging implement, where they could be picked
up later by the top, or by other bottoms if it is not cleaned
before reuse. The possibility of infection with HIV, hepatitis
or other communicable diseases via a flogging scene must be taken
seriously but should not be exaggerated to the point of paranoia.
In most cases only a tiny amount of blood or lymph is exuded,
and even less is actually picked up by the business end of the
flogger, cat or whip. Moreover, the HIV microbe in particular
dies quickly when exposed to air, though hepatitis viruses and
some others are much hardier. If you follow reasonable precautions
in using and cleaning flogging equipment and use standard first
aid procedures in treating whatever wounds do occur, the risk
should be remote or non existent. Whip cuts can cause scarring.
While unwanted scarring can be reduced by proper care for wounds,
the risk cannot be completely eliminated in any especially heavy
scene.
First aid
Even in a very heavy scene, blood flow from a whip cut or scrape
should stop by itself in a few seconds. If it doesnt, press
on the wound, using a sterile gauze to keep blood off your hand.
After blood flow has stopped, clean the wound and skin around
it with sterile gauze soaked in Betadine (the best choice but
will stain brown), or dilute Hydrogen Peroxide. Alcohol is not
an adequate disinfectant in this case, and it will sting a lot
more. Once cleaned, shallow cuts and most abrasions should not
be bandaged (free air flow promotes healing) and should not require
medical attention if kept clean. Do not apply greasy ointments.
If there is any reason wounds cant be kept clean without
bandaging, bandage them loosely, using lint free gauze pads.
Bruising may not develop until well after a scene is over, and
many flogging implements will not cause bruises in any case. (Bruising
is most likely to be caused by implements that land with a thud
rather than a crack, such as a very heavy cat as well
as rigid, blunt instruments like nightsticks or truncheons. These
do little or no damage to the surface skin but crush deeper tissue
and the vessels running through it.) Small bruises do not need
any special attention, though some think a light rubbing with
Vitamin E oil can reduce pain and promote healing. For larger
bruises apply an ice pack to reduce swelling, followed by Vitamin
E oil. Do not use heat, as this could increase internal bleeding
and make things worse.
Cleaning up
The business end of flogging equipment should be cleaned religiously
after every scene to kill any bacteria or viruses they may have
picked up. Do not use the same implement on different bottoms
in the same scene even if there is no visible bleeding.
Small cuts and scrapes can exude colourless lymph body fluid before
they start bleeding (if at all), and lymph can carry HIV and other
viruses. Use latex gloves when cleaning equipment that was used
in a bloody scene.
At a minimum, after a light to moderate scene with no visible
bleeding or surface sweat raised on the bottoms
back (which might be lymphatic secretions), spray or soak the
tips or ends of your whips, cats, floggers, etc. for several minutes
with Hydrogen Peroxide, wipe away the excess with clean paper
towels, and let them air dry for at least a few hours before reuse
(preferably overnight or longer 36 hours). Just dabbing
or wiping your equipment with disinfectant isnt enough,
particularly with braided whips, because microbes can lodge in
cracks and crannies. Rubber and plastic whips and floggers can
be cleaned with a bleach solution (10 parts water to 1 part bleach
is adequate). Leather equipment will have to be reconditioned
with Lexol, saddle dressing or hide rejuvenator, after its
dry.
After a heavy flogging and whenever blood is drawn, the cleaning
procedure recommended by most respected whipmasters adds another
step: First thoroughly scrub the ends and any other soiled
parts of the implements with water and a foaming cleanser
(such as Simple Green, a US cleanser) or soap (Lux soap flakes
dissolved in water at half normal strength) using a hard-bristled
brush (such as a hard toothbrush), to clean out any crannies.
Rinse. Then spray or soak for several minutes with Hydrogen Peroxide
as above, air dry, and recondition. Both cleaning steps can be
repeated several times for greater safety. An implement that draws
a tiny amount of blood can be made safe for reuse on another person
if the procedure above is followed, but a whip that cuts someones
back to shreds should probably be reserved for future use on that
person alone even after cleaning.
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The material for this note came from several sources
Black Cross: A Handbook of Health and Safety Precautions
and First Aid for S/M, a work in progress by David Stein
c/o GMSMA, Suite D32, 496A Hudson Street, New York, NY 10014.
Sandmutopia Guardian #5 article by the Quartermaster Fundamentals
of Flagellation
DungeonMaster #33 article by Jim the Whip Maker and Dick
Carlson Bulls, Snakes and other scary critters.
On The Safe Edge, a Manual for SM Play by Trevor Jacques
with Dr. Dale, Michael Hamilton and Sniffer, published by
Whole SM Publishing Corporation, PO Box 75075-880, 20, Bloor
Street East, Toronto, Ontario M4W 3T3 Canada.
NOTE THAT IT MAY BE ILLEGAL TO IMPORT SOME OF THESE PUBLICATIONS
INTO THE UK.
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